DOs and DON’Ts of Christmas (2)

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Keresimesi tun made o, …. eyin eniyan. Eyo, ‘bere, kefijo si oooo…”

That was my favourite Christmas song growing up.

Even though I was not originally of the Yoruba tribe of Nigeria, and did not properly understand the beautiful language yet, there was something about the song which made me (and I believe, a whole lot of other Nigerians) boogie to its tune.

Keresimesi is Yoruba for Christmas, and the song was basically reminding everyone that the time for jollification was here again.

I particularly loved the song, because it signaled shiny new clothes and tons of fried chicken. Heck… I loved love everything about Christmas.

What is there not to love about Christmas?? It IS the most wonderful time of the year. 😊

Yet, it is that time of the year when we need to be cautious of certain DOs and DON’Ts.

I know, I know; I did this last year already, and should just refer you to the initial post for DOs and DONTs of Christmas, which is right here.

But while there are some things which must be reiterated always, there are those ones which were important enough to have made this year’s list. This time, I am focusing on just the DON’Ts for this Christmas season. Here goes my top 5:


My computer’s Caps Lock feature is not broken or malfunctioning. Everything in the preceding sentence is in Capital Letters to represent the fact that I am literally screaming the words.

(Well… technically, my fingers are screaming)

We know that ‘being kind’ makes each person feel good, and hoisting pictures of your ‘kindness’ on social media proves to your naysayers that contrary to their discussions of you at their monthly coven meetings, you actually use your wealth and influence for the greater good.

Clap. Clap.

However, the recipients of your ‘kindness’ are also humans, with their own entitlement to dignity at the very least.

They are already regarded as being at the bottom of society’s ladder. Do not further degrade their plight in brandishing your ‘saving them’ from hunger, just for that fleeting ‘feel good’ sensation.

Yes, it is good to raise awareness for the need to give to charity. One may even share details of one’s giving, so as to encourage others to give.

However, you could do this without actually splashing pictures of orphaned children and roadside beggars on your Instagram handle, with the hashtag #GivingIsBAE.

By all means, please give. And if you feel led to tell the world about your giving, by all means do so.

But please, please, keep away the pictures of the recipients of your kindness, especially the children among them. Bless others with your wealth, without unilaterally extracting their anonymity as consideration.


Ok, I also had to place this one in all Caps (and repeat it from last year’s list), because it cannot be over-emphasised.

Years of medical experience gained from dedicatedly watching 15 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy has taught me that the majority of the most horrible crashes occur during festive seasons. This Christmas season is like a whole 12-day festival, with at least three public holidays, and the half of the world’s workforce being on leave.

If you must drink, please ensure that there is a designated driver who has had no alcohol. If you are alone, get a taxi. Software applications like UBER have also made it easier, and you can order an Uber from the comfort of your drunken stupor.

Please do not drive while drunk, or with alcohol in your system. If for nothing, remember other road users, who will be affected by the unwelcome effects of your drinking and driving.

3. Do not squander the whole of your December income on Christmas

I understand.

With every store on every street and in every corner flashing bright lights, beckoning you to waltz in; with worldwide sales events for the end of the year, and the parties left right and centre, it is easy to abandon your carefully planned monthly budget, and consume the whole of your December income (which is usually paid a bit earlier) in just one week of festivities.

(My heart goes out to you)

Please remember that January is a very looooooooooooong month, and sometimes actually has about four months within that one month.

You do not want to begin the year begging, borrowing, or just being plain cranky for having to scrounge through the whole of that looooooooooooong January, and look like:

 Try to stick to your regular budget for the month of December, while carefully carving out extra funds for Christmas shopping and practicing (what I call) conscious shopping, in line with what you have carefully planned.

This Christmas will come and go. But you have the rest of your responsibilities lounging on the sofa; waiting for you.

4. Do not let your heart be troubled

In as much as this is the happiest time of the year, it could also come with its own blues, especially which overt or covert pressure from people around you.

It could be in the family gathering, and seeing everyone with a car, while you still use the public transit. Or the pressure from seeing everyone running around with their children, while still waiting for a bun to enter your oven, after years of marriage.

It could be from the pressure of being asked by ‘caring’ uncles and aunties “when will you marry, ehhn?” Or all your other relatives returning with their “innit” accent, while you have never crossed the Seme border, and still navigate your thick Upper-Iweka accent.

Whatever it may be, do not let your heart be troubled by the (seeming) successes of others this period. Do not let your spirit be drawn into any unhealthy comparisons.

Every person’s race is different, and success if subjective. Genuinely rejoice for others around you, and be grateful for that which you have. While it is laudable to be motivated to be more hardworking or enterprising, please do not let the splurge of another’s happiness tension you into sadness.

As we say in naija street-lingo, “You cannot come and go and kee yourself, and coman die, and go and be dead”.

5. Do not forget the reason for the season

I have heard (and read) severally, that Jesus Christ was not actually born in the Christmas period, and that a pagan holiday was replaced by Christmas, yada yada.

Yes. I get the memo. That there was no actual snow in Israel, and Jesus may have been born in the summer.

It does not remove from the fact that CHRISTmas was set aside to celebrate the birth of the one heralded as the savior. That IS the reason for the season.

It is not SNOWmas, or SANTAmas. It is Christmas; to commemorate the birth of the one regarded as the Christ.

So do not forget to whisper a “Happy Birthday, Jesus”. And in all you do this period, be emulative of the actions of the one after whom this season is named.

Be kind. Be forgiving. Love without societal, racial, religious or other barriers. And be of good cheer.

From all of us at Meet My Busy Mind… Merry Christmas, and Happy Holidays.



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  1. Very hilarious yet thoughtful👏
    Merry Christmas mama!

  2. Merry Christmas darling... Thank you for reminding us of the very Loooooooooooong January!!!

  3. This January eh? 😂 Issa 6 months something o. As i move past all the shine shine shops with flashy inviting signages, alI i'll be thinking now is budget, budget and budget. God help me...

  4. You forgot a to give a liru advice to za sistehs against falling bait to our returnee brothers (those living in the abroad washing plate, sweeping bus station, or even released from prison)

  5. This is just so funny, thanks for telling or they #givingisbae sisters that they should Stop their nonsensical act...I can't just stop laughing....4months in just january lols, sheybi na dem one chop chicken na...make dem suffer the consequences

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