A word of advice to Adolescent me. (Maybe two)

Sunday, October 09, 2016


(Just in case we end up on one of those time-machines to the past that Hollywood (especially Michael J. Fox) warns us about. A little precaution never harmed anyone… )

Dear Adolescent/Younger me,

Photo Credits: Yours truly

Since you’re reading this, congratulations!

You survived the haze and confusion of this phase of your life.

From the weird changes in your body, to the increasing side glances from childhood ‘buddies’ of the opposing gender.


You did not give in to self-destruction. Or maybe you did, but you got lucky, and survived it.

I know you cannot wait to be an adult; to revel in the liberty of making all your decisions and being your own person, without restrictions.

I wish I could assure you that your fantasies of absolute freedom in adulthood are real… Oh well, you are better off experiencing life yourself; forming your own adult opinions.

I have one word of advice which you require, not just to survive this stage of your life, but to OWN it:

Balance.

You will quite suddenly begin to find yourself confused between ‘good’ and ‘bad’; ‘black’ and ‘white’, as espoused by society, and drummed into your subconscious.

On the one hand, you will find yourself wanting to best your peers; feel the pressure of meeting the expectations of everyone around you, to be the most awesome ‘you’.

To attain that success your teachers sing about in school; be as brilliant as your parents chime they were at your age; make jaw-breaking scientific discoveries and achieve fame at your young age, like Mark Zuckerberg or Malala Yousafzai.

On the other hand, you will feel that tugging from your inner child; to be carefree, spontaneous, reckless and feckless, without a care in the world or any consideration given to the feelings of others around you. 

To spend indiscriminately; to be unaccountable. And later on, the urge to hold that boy a little closer.. a little longer.

Alas, that is what you are: a child.

Finding a balance is key to thriving through adolescence.

Read wide, not just to pass exams. Read to possess true knowledge, and gain deeper understanding of the world that awaits you outside the shelter and comfort of the nest you presently call home. You will find yourself (quite effortlessly) more knowledgeable than expected.

By all means, try your best to be best at all you do. But know that it is absolutely normal to meet road-blocks in your climb up the ladder. Approach these challenges with part-seriousness part-humour, and not as some intrinsic Nollywood styled plot to ‘bring you down’.

Party if you must. But do not distort nature’s need for your young mind to get its adequate rest.

Yes, experience young, passionate, unfathomable, ‘I-will-jump-into-freezing-water-and-die-unnecessarily-like-Jack’ love; the first kiss even. However, always have your wits around you, bearing in mind that you will be at least 10 years older (maybe 15) before you will be mentally and financially capable to shoulder the burden of a totally dependent new life on you.

It is alright to trust a little… or even a lot. Many may will take advantage of your kindness. Be kind anyway, hardly expecting anything in return. If reciprocated, receive it with warmth.

I believe in you. So believe in you. Believe in yourself. Believe in God. You doubt His existence amidst the mad madness of the world? Open your eyes; He IS in everything.

Above all, learn to say ‘Yes’, only if you genuinely feel the need to in your gut, with the blessings of your head. ‘Yes’ should never be a response to pressure.

As you ponder on these words, find solace in knowing that you will turn out alright after all.

Trust me, I know.

Yours truly,

Still-evolving (generally) adult You.


P.s. Donald Trump may become the President of the United States of America. If you do not meet a United States of America by the time you read this, he won the 2016 (American) Presidential election.


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13 comments

  1. Wow! A very good piece! Strongly recommend it to every teenager.

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  2. Smiles.....
    Oh mine!!.
    You got me dear.
    Tnx alot for dis.
    And may d Lord continue to inculcate in u d wisdom to write more inspiring words to his ppl.
    Namaste Ma'am.

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    1. Amen! Thank you for being a fan of my works. I appreciate.

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  3. Stimulating piece. This should be printed, laminated and hung in all primary and secondary school classrooms.

    Somethings I knew now, I wish I knew then but we live and learn.

    Mama Schinnel, you're an inspiration to a whole lot of us out here.

    Btw: Your prediction about Donald Trump came to fruition. LOL.

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    1. Lol!!! I know ryt?? (Arrgh!!)

      Thank you soooo much!

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    2. Lol!!! I know ryt?? (Arrgh!!)

      Thank you soooo much!

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  4. Stimulating piece. This should be printed, laminated and hung in all primary and secondary school classrooms.

    Somethings I knew now, I wish I knew then but we live and learn.

    Mama Schinnel, you're an inspiration to a whole lot of us out here.

    Btw: Your prediction about Donald Trump came to fruition. LOL.

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